well the elctrician that i bought the cable gave me, 2 mono cable jacks.
one adapter from that has 2 holes in one side and makes it into one 2.5mm jack (all 3 of thgem stereo) and also gave me a 2 things that i put in the 2 stereo holes of the adapter, that make them mono i think. perhaps that was the problem? perhaps i will get the cables you suggest and finally fix this thing... i got tired....
thanx